Our sex life began in 1905, and since then we’ve continued to build on our expertise in sexual wellness, sexual education and our trailblazing attitude towards sexual health product innovation. You could say, being ahead of the curve is our favourite position.

In addition to our work in sexual health products, we’re committed to helping sexually active people make fun choices, smart choices. We believe that a great sex life comes from healthy communication – so let’s do it with meaning.

We are committed to education, by providing thousands of free sex-ed resources to teachers all across Australia.

We are connected to the community, by partnering with Family Planning Alliance of Australia to provide them with hundreds of thousands of free condoms and lubricants each year.

We champion your right to have the confidence you need to explore your own sexuality, on your own terms, and create meaningful human connections.

Our sex life began in 1905, and since then we’ve continued to build on our expertise in sexual wellness, sexual education and our trailblazing attitude towards sexual health product innovation. You could say, being ahead of the curve is our favourite position.

In addition to our work in sexual health products, we’re committed to helping sexually active people make fun choices, smart choices. We believe that a great sex life comes from healthy communication – so let’s do it with meaning.

We are committed to education, by providing thousands of free sex-ed resources to teachers all across Australia.

We are connected to the community, by partnering with Family Planning Alliance of Australia to provide them with hundreds of thousands of free condoms and lubricants each year.

We champion your right to have the confidence you need to explore your own sexuality, on your own terms, and create meaningful human connections.

Ah, the prostate. Part of the Movember Foundation’s mission is to raise awareness about men having conversations with their doctor’s regarding prostate cancer, to aid in early detection and treatment. But, why is it so important to take care of this little organ and what the heck is it anyway?

Anatomy Lesson

The prostate is part of the male sexual and reproductive systems, producing one of the main ingredients of semen. This little organ is roughly about the size and shape of a walnut or a small plum and is located right above the base of the penis, under the bladder. You can find it by reaching a finger (some folks can do this solo, but having a partner helps) into the anus very slowly and using lots of lube. The prostate is most sensitive and swollen when you are already aroused, so don’t skip the foreplay. Once you get past the muscular anal canal, you’ll feel a roomier and squishier area. This is the rectum. Once you can feel the rectum, make a “come hither” motion with your finger to see if you feel a shape that kind of reminds you of a walnut. Oh, hello there, prostate! Once you find it, experiment with different ways of stroking it that feel good for you. Everyone is different, but think massage more than trying to push an elevator button.

The P-Spot

The prostate is also known as the “male g-spot” or P-spot. The G-spot (we’ve all heard of this, yes?) in folks with vulvas and the P-spot in folks with penis’ are homologous. That means that when we were all hanging out in the womb, we were all made up of the same tissues when our anatomy started forming. Depending on how our chromosomes develops, these tissues eventually became our different sex organs, but the blueprint is the same for everyone.

“P is for Pleasure”

P-spot also stands for “pleasure” and I’m about to tell you how you can tap into it.
Prostate pleasure is for everyone with a prostate (including transgender women who still have a prostate). This seems obvious, but some people still hold onto the stigma that butt stuff is only for men who have sex with men. Ah, contraire! We are told as a society that “real men” (meaning “masculine” men) are always the penetrators, always use their penis during sex, are always dominant, and certainly don’t like butt stuff. I mean, sure. If that’s what you’re into. But can I offer an alternative? Maybe we are all humans who have bodies that are capable of pleasure in all sorts of ways and we are cutting ourselves off from a lot of it if we let ourselves be put into the box that society says we need to fit into. Just a thought.

Safer Prostate Play

Once of the biggest fears that comes up with butt stuff is the concern about messiness and safety. These are real concerns that require attention like any other type of sexual activity. If you are concerned about messiness, a shower before playing can go a long way. With relatively shallow penetration (like looking for your prostate), the likelihood of big mess is pretty low. However, keeping towels nearby is always a good safety precaution. Butt stuff is safe as long as you are using protection, like condoms and gloves, and lots of lube. The walls of the anus are susceptible to tears if you go too quickly, so always take it slow. If it hurts, you’re doing it wrong. Most of all, have fun, enjoy your body, and remember to get screened regularly to keep your P-spot happy.

Written By: Rena McDaniel, Sex Therapist and Educator

Human sexuality has become far more prominent in modern culture over the past few decades, and as the subject becomes less taboo, so do many practices associated with it. Sex toys, for example, have been a part of the sexual experience in many cultures as far back as the ancient Roman Empire and beyond. In more recent times, the use of vibrators and other devices was common, but no one really talked about it.

In the 1800s, vibrators were used in a clinical setting to cure hysteria in women. This “disorder” is no longer recognized as an illness, and since then, the vibrator has evolved significantly. They were often marketed as massagers and everything about them was kept very hush-hush.

These days, however, there are many different options available that range from high-end devices available exclusively at adult shops to the inexpensive vibrating ring and personal pleasure massagers that can be found at drug stores and supermarkets, such as SKYN® VIBES PERSONAL PLEASURE VIBRATING MASSAGER. The stigma of using vibrating devices for pleasure is quickly vanishing and being replaced with commercials that discreetly advertise toys designed for intimate fun.

“For both women and men, vibrator use is linked with more positive sexual function, such as greater desire, arousal and easier orgasms,” says Dr. Debby Herbenick, the author of “Sex Made Easy” to CNN online. “It’s also something that most women and men feel positively about – there really isn’t the same stigma that, decades ago, people may have associated with sex toy use.”

Herbenick explains that nearly half of men and most women in the U.S & Australia have used a vibrator at least once. The internet may have something to do with the increase in sex toy use. Many are shy or embarrassed about purchasing intimate items from their local pharmacy. Now, people are able to order everything from pleasure condoms to vibrators and other items designed for getting down and dirty from the privacy of their own homes.

If you have never experimented with vibrating toys, you may want to start small, and the SKYN®THRILLS Vibrating Bullet could be a good place to start. This small massager has three different settings, is water-resistant and reusable. Vibrating rings are ideal for both partners’ pleasure, which makes it an ideal choice for men who may be hesitant to try the devices.

“Fortunately, most men are not intimidated by vibrators,” Herbenick explained to the news source. “Some men worry that their partner will prefer a vibrator over them, but most men don’t feel this way.”

If you do decide to try vibrators in the bedroom, be sure to take care of them. Wash and dry them after each use before putting them away so they are ready to go next time you and your lover are in the mood.

Losing your virginity can be a nerve-wracking experience. Until you’ve actually had a sexual experience, the world of sex can seem both alluring and intimidating. If you’re getting ready for your first time, here are a few things you should know before you take the plunge.

1. Relax about your body

This may be one of the first times that you show your naked body to a member of the opposite sex, but you shouldn’t let this thought cause you to panic. Because you’re both going into this experience willingly, then odds are the other person is pretty eager to see how you look without any clothes on. It’s natural for anyone of any age to have insecurities about their appearance, but sex is a time when you can lose yourself in the pleasure of another person’s body, and forget about the parts of yourself you’d like to change.

2. It may not go as planned

You’ve probably spent quite a bit of time imagining how your first time will go down, but it’s important not to think too carefully about what you expect. Sex should be a spontaneous event, and during a romantic encounter you’ll likely find out that your partner has different ideas about how things should proceed. This isn’t a bad thing – one of the beautiful parts of sex is that both parties get to voice their needs and wants, and revel in the pleasure of attending to their partners’ desires.

3. You can take it slow

Just because it’s your first time doesn’t mean you have to do every single act on your sexual checklist. In fact, it may be wise to take things slowly. Start out with some fun oral play, or invest in a vibrating device, like the SKYN® THRILLS vibrating bullet for some mutual masturbation fun. If you want to stick to oral sex your first time, then pick up a few flavored condoms to bring the experience to a new level.

4. Practice makes perfect

Don’t worry if things get a bit awkward during your first experience, especially if your partner is also losing his or her virginity. In the movies, sex may look completely effortless, but in reality it doesn’t always go so smoothly. Fortunately, the more time you spend with your partner, the better sex will become. You’ll soon learn what he or she likes and dislikes, and each session will get steamier as a result.

5. Safety first for your first time

Don’t listen to people who say you can’t get an STI your first time – it’s a myth. Similarly, women are able to get pregnant even during their first experience. For these reasons, it’s essential that you wear protection each and every time you have sex – even if you’ve never done it before. Wearing condoms will keep both you and your partner safe.

By now, you’ve probably run into a few people who seem to always get the guy or girl they want by the end of the night. They manage to walk into a crowded bar and almost effortlessly seal the hookup or date they desire. Often, these bold individuals aren’t the most physically attractive people at the bar, but something about them gets everyone they meet worked up. If you long to have the sexual expertise these people carry, then you may want to keep these tips in mind.

1. Be confident

Remember the last time you went out to the bars with your friends, and there was that quiet person sitting on a barstool by themselves the whole night? No, of course you don’t. Keeping to yourself is the number one way to be overlooked when seeking a fun date. Being outgoing may be difficult for the shy, but if you want people to pay attention to you, then you have to approach them with confidence. This doesn’t mean talking about yourself constantly or being a loudmouth just to get attention. Instead…

2. Be friendly

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and the difference often lies within your attitude. Players may sometimes get the girl, but if you want to be the kind of person who everyone wants, then a smile and a compliment are key. Just be sure that your friendliness doesn’t come off as overeager anxiety, instead try to…

3. Be relaxed

It can be easy to get worked up in a social environment, but not many people get turned on by someone who is high-strung. This quality ties back in to the issue of confidence. If you want to truly present yourself as confident, then you need to show everyone that you can be relaxed, yet engaging when interacting with new lovers (and friends). Just make sure you are truly relaxed and not putting up a front, because it’s essential to…

4. Be honest

It may be tempting to make up wild stories in order to impress everyone, but if you really want to nab a new partner, you’ll need to be honest about yourself. Allowing people to get intimate with you on a personal level, even before you turn down the lights and unwrap your pleasure condoms, will help them realize you are the real deal. Just don’t open up too much to all those strangers, because you have to…

5. Be smart

We’re not just talking about having some intelligent talking points up your sleeve, though that is also useful. Truly sexy people know the best kind of sex is safe sex. And if you really want to be one of those folks who gets down and dirty on the regular, then you can’t let sexually transmitted infections get in the way of your game. Play it safe and smart – use protection every time you have sex.

More and more couples are choosing to use vibrating devices are part of their sexual activity. If you’re considering purchasing a sex toy for yourself or your partner, you may want to keep some useful tips in mind, according to POPSUGAR.

First-time toy shoppers may be wondering what the difference is between vibrators and dildos. While both are used in the bedrooms, dildos are used for penetration purposes, while vibrating toys, such as the SKYN® THRILLS vibrating bullet, are used to stimulate certain areas, like the clitoris. Because most females reach orgasm from clitoral stimulation, it may be best to purchase a vibrating device, rather than a dildo.

While vibrating toys have become less taboo in recent years, some people may still be hesitant to visit a sex shop or other retailer that offers adult toys. For this reason, it may be wise to shop around on the web and buy a sex toy online to avoid any awkward interactions at a check-out.

Shopping with a friend or lover can also make things easier. If you plan on using the toy with your partner, then you’ll definitely want to include them in the shopping process. Being open with your partner and talking about sex can make your sex life much more enjoyable.

The website reminds shoppers to check a store’s return policy in case the item does not work or is unsatisfactory. Additionally, when picking out a toy, investigate the material out of which the product is made to avoid any allergic reactions.

While people may still be hesitant to talk about their usage of vibrating devices, recent surveys from Indiana University published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine indicate that just under half of all men and more than half of women have used a vibrator at some point in their life, according to The New York Times.

Herpes is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections, and it’s one of the few that has no cure. For this reason, all sexually active adults need to be aware of the STI facts, signs, symptoms and treatments for herpes.

Facts and figures

The CDC reports that genital herpes affects approximately 16.2 percent of Americans between the ages of 14 and 49. That averages out to about one in every six people, if you consider both sexes together. Though this illness can occur in both men and women, it is more common among females. While one in nine American men has herpes, that number is closer to one in five for women.

What it is and how it’s spread

Herpes is caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV), which comes in two types – HSV-1 and HSV-2. The Mayo Clinic explains that HSV-1 is typically found around the mouth, while HSV-2 ordinarily infects the genitals.
Herpes is transmitted through sexual contact – anal, vaginal or oral. It’s important to understand that an individual with HSV-1 can pass his or her illness onto their partner through oral sex, the CDC reports.

Symptoms and diagnosis

One of the reasons that herpes is so common is because it often carries mild symptoms, or none at all. Some clinical signs of the illness can also be mistaken for other skin conditions. Unfortunately, this means many infected people are not aware they carry the disease, and are thus more likely to pass their illness on to a partner.

If you do develop symptoms, you may notice small blisters on the genitals, mouth, lips or rectum. After a while, these blisters will break and leave behind painful sores, which can take up to four weeks to heal. Exhibiting such sores is known as an “outbreak,” and an infected individual’s first outbreak may be accompanied by flu-like symptoms.

Once you are infected with herpes, it lies dormant in your system, and outbreaks may occur over time. However, the first outbreak is typically the most severe, and most patients find that the number of outbreaks they experience decreases over a period of years.

Even individuals who are not going through an outbreak can pass this illness on to their partner.

Prevention

While there is no cure for herpes, you can get treatment to reduce the severity of the illness. If you’re concerned that you have been infected, visit a sexual health clinic or your personal physician. A medical professional can examine or take a sample of any sores to give you a diagnosis, or you may be able to take a blood test between outbreaks. If you receive a positive diagnosis, the next step is to discuss what treatment options are available. As with many STIs, condoms are an effective form of prevention. Because herpes can be transmitted orally, it may be best to wear flavored condoms when performing or receiving oral sex.

While many schools and sexual health organizations strive to provide safer sex education to young adults, there may still be some people who have questions about STD facts or would like to receive condom tips. With a lack of sexual health information comes myths about contraceptives, and an article posted by The Wellness & Lifestyle Challenge hopes to dispel some of the misinformation.

One of the myths about pregnancy prevention is that women cannot get pregnant during their period. This is not true, the news source reports, because sperm can live for up to five days inside a woman’s body. The menstruation cycle does not prevent a woman from getting pregnant.

It is also not true that women can avoid pregnancy provided a man “pulls out” before ejaculation. The pre-lubricant a man secretes before he ejaculates contains sperm, enough to cause pregnancy.

Some may believe that showering or douching after sex can help one avoid pregnancy, but the news source reports that this is not the case. After ejaculation, the sperm moves up toward the egg, and will not be affected by attempts to wash it away.

The news provider also reminds sexually active individuals that the birth control pill does nothing to prevent STDs. However, using a condom can lower the risk of unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infection.

Lastly, those who think that they can’t get pregnant after having unprotected sex just once should think again. Even one round of sex without a condom can lead to pregnancy or the contraction of an STD, so it’s best to use a condom every time you have sex.

Those who would like to learn about condom FAQs or other sexual health information should consult a medical professional or sexual health expert.

If you’ve had your fair share of long-term relationships, you probably think you know everything there is to know about having a boyfriend or girlfriend. However, there are many assumptions that even the most seasoned dating veterans will make, and they can lead to big mistakes that have the potential to make or break your relationships. Here are a few myths you might encounter and the truths behind them:

MYTH: Happy Couples Never Argue

There’s nothing enjoyable about getting into an argument with your significant other, but having the occasional disagreement doesn’t spell doom for you and your partner. In fact, it’s healthy for the two of you to argue about some things – it shows that you’re each maintaining your independence and able to communicate effectively. However, if your arguments are happening every day or are so heated that they lead to screaming matches, you might be in trouble. A healthy couple will have a calm and honest discussion about their disagreement until they reach a compromise that satisfies both partners.

MYTH: Couples in Serious Relationships Don’t Need to Use Condoms

If you believe in this myth, you’re setting yourself up for some misery. Condoms don’t only protect against the most common STDs, they also prevent unwanted pregnancies. No contraceptive pill is 100 percent reliable, and adding an extra layer of protection is a smart move. Not to mention, even if you trust your partner completely, you can never be completely certain that at some point, he or she won’t stray. One of the worst ways to find out your loved one is cheating on you is by getting an STD, so make sure you wrap it up.

MYTH: Temptation Is Just as Bad as Cheating

You can’t control your heart’s desires, but you can control your own actions. If you are in a relationship that lasts more than a few months, you will undoubtedly meet someone at some point in time who piques your romantic or sexual interests. It’s up to you to try and quell these feelings or avoid this person if you feel your emotions start to overpower you. Just because you have thoughts about others doesn’t mean you’re a cheater – as long as you don’t do anything about it.

MYTH: Men Always Want More Sex than Women

You’ll hear people say that guys always have a greater need for sex than their female counterparts, but this generalization is often untrue. Sometimes, women are more eager for sex than men, and other times partners have matching libidos. More often than not, the frequency with which you and your partner get down and dirty will fluctuate, and you shouldn’t beat yourselves up if you find that you’re having sex less often at certain times. As long as you are both communicating about why your sex life is ebbing, you shouldn’t have too much to worry about.

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