In our modern times, masturbation is considered a powerful and liberating experience for women. Some even like to vocalise this regularly via social media, podcasts and blog posts as a form of activism.

It’s true that sexual pleasure for women has always been a taboo topic; a second thought. Until recently, where the narrative has switched from ‘masturbation is dirty and secluded’ to ‘masturbating is the cool new form of self-care and stress relief’ (which also comes with an array of helpful accessories to assist 😉 ).

Even with this new feminist freedom surrounding masturbation, it is important to remember that it may not be for you. And that is okay! If your sex is safe and consensual, everything else is your choice to enjoy/partake in.

Masturbation, or the lack of it, is your decision to make and stand by. Here are a few reasons to remember that it’s okay if you don’t enjoy touching yourself:

There’s no pleasure in it: The idea that all men and women enjoy masturbating is just another way to stereotype: you’re doomed if you do and you’re doomed if you don’t.

Let’s remove the judgement from these situations. This preference has no impact on how one performs or enjoys themselves in the bedroom. It’s a personal decision and if it sits right with you, that’s all that matters.

You’re bored of it: If you’re having great sex with a partner, why overdo it? Masturbating can feel like a chore and make you feel less of a sexual connection with your partner. If you’d rather save it for when you’re really going to enjoy it, that’s totally fine.

You just prefer sex with someone else: An emotional and passionate connection can be the main reason you enjoy having sex. You see masturbation as time wasted – it’s not going to tick your boxes. That’s fine, too! If you decide you’re feeling explorative, maybe introduce some mutual masturbation with your partner.

Choosing what you want in the bedroom is the epitome of sexual liberation, remember this if you ever feel swayed or judged by your choices from society. 

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