Get to Know Yourself First
Most of us have grown up in environments where masturbation was treated as a taboo topic. But as times change and minds broaden, conversations around sex and self-love are slowly making their way into the mainstream.
Whether you can count your sexual partners on one hand or you’ve kept a detailed logbook of past lovers, it’s never too late to explore yourself and find out what you like. If you want to improve your sex life, the first steps come from within.
Just like you wouldn’t plunge into a freezing bath, you’ve got to warm things up first. Everyone talks about the importance of foreplay, but are you really giving yourself enough time to get in the mood? Probably not. Masturbation can help you figure out exactly what turns you on, whether it’s porn, an erotic novel or nipple play and you can bring that knowledge into your next hook-up.
Getting comfortable with what floats your boat when you’re going solo can also give you the confidence to express what you like with a partner. Being able to describe what you want can lead to a more pleasurable experience for both of you. Many people find it incredibly satisfying to know they’re giving their partner exactly what they want.
While knowing how to drive manual is always a handy skill, there’s no shame in going automatic every now and then. It can be tricky to get there with your hands alone, and trying out different toys until you find what works is a key part of self-love for many. Once you’ve found your ride-or-die, don’t be afraid to bring it into the bedroom.
Ultimately, tuning into yourself helps you become better at tuning into others. When you’re confident in your own pleasure, you begin to appreciate the nuance and complexity of someone else’s. And that is a win for everyone.
